Do You Suffer From Working Mom Guilt?

February 22, 2009

It’s not uncommon for women who work outside of the home to feel guilty about spending time away from their children. They want to know how to deal with working mommy guilt and yet still be able to make a financial contribution to the family budget.

Guilt is a common emotion that can be uncomfortable to deal with. It can also make you less productive both at home and at work. Here are some ways that you can deal with working mommy guilt if you’re facing this problem.

  • Set your priorities to what works for you and your family.  Say for example, your child has an important activity that you’d like to attend and your boss asks you to stay late, don’t be afraid to tell them “no” if this is a top priority for you.  It may help to discuss with your boss early on what is and isn’t suitable for you both this way there are no surprises for anyone involved.
  • Write down the reasons why you work outside of the home. You may need to work to help keep your home, you may love your job, or you may have started working when your children all started school. If your reasons for working have changed, don’t be afraid to make changes to your schedule or stop working altogether.
  • Realize that you’re not Superwoman. It’s impractical to think that you can continue to do all of the things you did before you began working outside of the home as well as take care of your home. Working too hard will only result in your becoming burned out. Delegate what you can and then do what is left.
  • Give yourself a break. Your house doesn’t have to be spotless. Reduce your standards a little bit and you’ll be able to breathe a little easier.
  • Take care of yourself. This may seem like a strange statement when you already feel guilty, but if you don’t take care of yourself you can’t take care of others or do the things you need to do.
  • When you start to feel guilty, look at your circumstances and identify what the real problem is. What is it that’s causing you to feel guilty? After you’ve identified the problem you can decide how to best handle it.

If you’re beginning to feel guilty about the amount of time you’re spending away from your children, try to fit in some quality time together.  Quality time is more important than simply spending lots of time together.  And you don’t have to do anything fancy either, your children may simply want to snuggle and read books all day – keep in mind that sometimes quality time is more important than the quantity of time you spend together.  We all struggle with mommy guilt from time to time but ultimately you want the best for your children and keeping this in mind will help you positively deal with this guilt.

Hold A Kids Valentine’s Day Party

February 9, 2009

Valentine’s Day is the perfect excuse to have a party.  Invite family and friends to share the day with you at your home.  When a party is on the agenda, everyone can contribute ideas to make it fun.

Plan ahead.  To avoid a rush, gather all of the party supplies a week in advance.  Let everyone brainstorm ideas until the big shopping day arrives.  With list in hand, find games and items for everyone.

Dress each guest to celebrate at the party.  For the girls, give them a candy necklace.  Once the party is over, she can nibble at her necklace for a sweet treat.  For the boys, try candy whistles.  It’ll be the most delicious sound they’ve ever made.

Start with some games.  How about a game of hearts for the card players in the group?  Go online and Google card games to find a simple version of the game for kids and adults to play at parties.
Word games are fun at a party.  Using the words, Happy Valentine’s Day, give kids two or three minutes to write down as many words as they can using those letters.  The one with the most words wins a prize.

Prizes for games can be as simple as paper hearts that function as coupons.  For example, create a coupon that can be traded in for a day with no chores or a five dollar gift from the store.  The more prizes a person wins, the more coupons they can cash in.  If you have invited people outside the family, have a separate prize basket with small prizes like teddy bears and candy.

Teach a craft.  Kids love to make things so give them an opportunity to learn something new.  Since spring comes right on the heels of winter, show them how to plant seeds in a flower pot.  They can start their own herb garden that will grow indoors.  Decorate the pots with hearts so kids will always remember the fun they had on Valentine’s Day.

If the weather is nice, the kids can take turns whacking a Valentine’s Day piñata.  The piñata can be a cupid, a heart, or something else related to Valentine’s Day.  Each child gets three chances to bust it open.  After that, the older party guests get a crack at it.

Even if it is just the family, a Valentine’s Day party can bring lots of laughs and quality together time.  Encourage old and young alike to participate for the most fun.

Why Was the 4th of July Made A Holiday?

October 2, 2008

Independence day is one of our nation’s biggest holiday. Let’s learn a little more about the history of this day by answering the question – Why was the 4th of July made a holiday?

Why Do We Celebrate On The 4th Of July?

The 4th of July has been an important holiday but today, more and more people do not know why we actually celebrate this day. If you are not up to date on your history of the United States, July 4th, 1776 is the day that the colonies decided to declare themselves independent of Britain. By writing a very detailed decree, they decided that they no longer would need to be governed by the Kings of England that had been so very unjust to the colonists in the years before. On July 4th, America was born. We call the 4th of July Independence Day because this day was the day they declared independence from Great Britain.

Today, we celebrate the fact that we are a free nation that is no under the rule of another. But, there is more to the celebration of independence than just the fact that this is the birthday of the United States. In fact, there are many goals and ideas that are represented in this celebration that until this day we fight for and protect around the world.

The Declaration of Independence, the actual decree in which was signed the independence of the United States, stands as a symbol for all of the things that we, as Americans, believe in. What are the symbols that it stands for?

The right to live with the freedoms of religion, without persecution and with the ability to think and do for yourself.

The courage it takes to protect freedom. It took the individuals that signed the Declaration a great deal of courage to do so as they could have been hung for treason. We use this symbol as a means to remind us that courage is often needed in times when our freedoms are threatened.

A symbol that people can live in a country that is governed by its people and that every person in that country is a very important person for its well being.

We celebrate the 4th of July for a number of reasons. We talk about how the United States of America was born and how many have died for that to happen. We celebrate the fact that we, as a nation, want all people to be free. And, we realize that without the courage and bravery of all those that came before us, we would not have the freedoms that we hold so very dear to us.
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