August 6, 2008
Online dating can be a bit intimidating to women. After all we have all read or heard of online dating horror stories. Here are a few tips to keep your online dating experience safe and enjoyable.
Be proactive. Don’t just post your profile and then wait for men to contact you. Go out there and browse the dating sites, contacting men that sound interesting to you.
Ask lots of questions and get to know a few of the guys well before you consider meeting with them. Keep a file on your computer with each man’s correspondence for future reference. If you are coming across someone who isn’t very honest about himself, you will catch him sooner or later in a lie. If that happens, move on.
If you do decide to meet someone in person, do so in a public place and let a friend know where you are going. Even better, ask a friend to hang out at the same spot to keep an eye on you. This also gives you an easy “out” of the date if things don’t work out – you can just happen to run into your friend.
Trust your instincts. If you have a bad feeling about a man you have met online, or anywhere else for that matter, follow your instinct and don’t get involved. Female intuition is one of the best tools we have when it comes to dating.
August 6, 2008
Online dating can be just as difficult for men as it can be for women. One thing that men need to keep in mind is that you never get a second chance to leave a good impression. It’s often a one time deal and you need to make the most of that first impression. Before you panic there are some things that you can do to make your online dating experience a success.
Perhaps the most important thing to do is be on time for the date. If you arrive late you’ll be sending out the message that you don’t really care enough about the date to be there on time. Lateness is good indication to women that you’re not reliable and that you can’t be counted on. Try to arrive a few minutes early so that you look as though you’re eager for the date to begin.
Take some time to prep for your date and focus on your grooming. You don’t want to arrive to your first date looking unshaven and unkempt. Women enjoy a date that takes care of himself. Do everything that you would do if this first date were a second or third date and you really want to leave a good impression. If your appearance is in question the woman won’t be able to see past your looks to the person you are inside.
Consider arriving with a small gift. Women love the thoughtfulness of a date that arrives with a little something such as flowers or a box of chocolates. You don’t want to go overboard but you do want to let the woman know that you’re appreciative of the chance to go out with her. You want to be a gentleman whenever possible and this means holding doors, pulling out chairs, and letting her walk through doors before you. Women enjoy the feeling of being pampered and respected. And just think, it might lead to a second date!
Practice good listening skills on your first date. No woman wants to spend time with a man who spends the whole time talking about himself. The goal of a first date is to get to know each other so that you can decide if you have enough in common and enough attraction to go out on a second date. Women are attracted to men who are interested in what they have to say.
Use your intuition when it comes to that first date. Be honest about what you’re thinking and feeling at the end of it. Don’t promise that you’ll call if you have no intention of contacting her again. Women appreciate honesty even if it hurts.
August 6, 2008
When it comes to online dating the competition is fierce and intense. Some people will do whatever it takes to get those dates including lying on their profile and including photos that are outdated. It’s important that you be honest with yourself both in your profile and with the pictures that you upload for others to see. Attracting dates using false pretences can only lead to trouble in the future.
There are some important things that you need to focus on when you’re building your online profile. You want your profile to be as honest as possible and say as much about you as it can. The following are specific aspects that you can focus on to get the ideal profile for your online dating adventures.
Try to avoid being negative. Negative talk about your job, your life, or your past dates is a big turnoff to future dates. You want to be positive and upbeat about whom you are without lying or embellishing. In the world of online taking being positive is like a magnet. Everyone wants to find that special someone who is positive and exciting. Negativity will get you few dates, and the ones that you do get will be just as negative as you are. Let potential dates know that you want to meet “winners”. This will encourage only upbeat and successful people to respond to your profile.
Try to be as unique as you can in the way you write your profile. Don’t just let people know that you like music and walks along the beach. Be specific about the music that you enjoy listening and the types of beaches that you’ve walked along. Use descriptive words that are different such as “a sizzling hot day on the beach” rather than “a hot day at the beach”. You want to make your profile as un-ordinary as you can without sounding like a complete flake.
When you write your profile you don’t just want to get as many responses as you can. You want to get the right responses from the type of people who you are attracted to. Filter the responses that you get by being specific about what you’re looking for. Make sure that you list the age requirements of potential dates so that you don’t end up with responses from people of all ages. Remember that this is your profile and you’re the one who is in charge of who you date. Update your profile at least once every two weeks if you’re not getting the responses that you want.